Whether you realize it or not, your success in all aspects of your life has a lot to do with who – and what- you are surrounded by each and every day. If you associate with positive people – the encourages, the ones who always look at the glass as half full, those that see obstacles as opportunities and challenges to grow – your own outlook on life will be positive. On the other hand, if you find yourself hanging around the complainers, those who constantly find something wrong with the situation or the “negative Nellies” of the group, chances are your outlook will be dim and you’ll find more reasons why you can’t or shouldn’t do something or, worse yet, fall victim to the “victim mentality”.
The problem is, we aren’t always aware of who falls into which category. We may feel it from time to time: You spend an hour with a friend and it just drains you or confuses you completely. Or you talk to someone who is always upbeat and positive and you feel like you are ready to conquer the world.
The challenge is even greater if you are one of those who want to help and even save others, because those “energy suckers” have something that acts like a dictator and they find you all the time. And you can’t say no! Does it sound like you? Maybe just a little bit?
Working with Alisson, who had her own business and had to handle clients all the time, she expressed feeling fatigue and stress, especially after dealing with some of her clients. She came to realize that some of the clients she took just didn’t fit her. She took them because she had a hard time saying no – both to them and to herself. She thought that refusing someone will be irresponsible to her business. After working together on this issue, what she came to understand was that by taking these clients, she allowed their negative energy to affect her. It also blocked her from attracting other clients that had the potential to actually elevate her energy as opposed to draining it. She decided to take action and found another solution for one of her ‘difficult’ clients. She felt uplifted and empowered, and her business thrived.
You may not always be able to disassociate from those who have a negative outlook in life, but there are a few things you can do to tip the scales in favor of a more positive attitude. Here’s the short list:
- Balance it! Make a point to spend time with those who inspire you
- Search out those who have these qualities you strive to have as well.
- Hang out with people who encourage you and lift you up.
- Find those that challenge you to do your best
- Recognize negative energy and avoid it when possible- who are the people that when you see their name pop on your phone screen you cringe? Those that after most encounters you feel you need to run away and hide or maybe drink?
At the same time, take stock in yourself: Where do you fall on the positive/negative scale? Are you a complainer? Or are you the encourager? Like truly attracts like, so if you find yourself being a bit negative, work on changing your own outlook as well.
Do you need assistance in understanding or addressing these “energy suckers” or do you find yourself needing support with balancing the distractions around you and reaching your goals? Dali can provide the tools and support you need in order to be UnStoppable and get there. Drop her a line here.